Work Life: Balancing Work When Your Kid Gets Sick

Balancing Work When Your Kid Gets Sick

We made it through our first year of parenthood without any major sickness, but as soon as we entered the world of toddlerhood things have quickly changed. This led us to figure out the best way to handle balancing work when your kid gets sick. [Read more…]

Working Motherhood: One Year Later

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One year ago today, I walked into back into my office to make my return from maternity leave. Thankfully, it was the first day my company moved into their new headquarters so everyone was a bit discombobulated. It made it slightly easier to deal with the awkward, crazy way I was feeling inside. Everything was the same, but I was a different person.

Now that I have a full year of working motherhood under my belt, I can honestly say that it feels like my new normal. So much so that I had to dig deep to remember how I was feeling last year at this time. I’ve realized the past few weeks that despite the fact that I felt like a completely different person when I returned to work, after time I’ve adapted and become an even better version of my previous self.

That’s not to say that in the beginning I did not struggle. It may have been my insecurity, but when I first returned to work it felt like I was not being taken as seriously. I was the new mom and I had to pass the test that I still lived up to my previous expectations before I was taken seriously. For Rich I feel it was the opposite and he was given more respect at work when he became a Dad. It was an interesting effect, but after proving myself both as a Mom and in the workplace I am confident that becoming a Mom has made me a better employee. Yes there are days when my lives bleed together and everyday I may take time from either in order to pull both jobs off, but in the end my job gets done- well.

As a working Mom I’ve found that remembering the example I’m setting for my son is the best motivation to work hard on the job. I was prepared to feel guilty and some days I feel the ping of guilt as I’m going about my day, but in my gut I know that continuing to pursue my career is the best choice for myself and for my family.

But, I do feel guilty. I often feel guilty that I drop Buel off early to daycare so that I can fit in my morning workout. I feel guilty when I forget items or paperwork to turn into his teachers. I feel guilty that I do not make all of his food from scratch and worry that we rush through our routines. I could go on, but I have learned to remind myself that worrying about these things is what makes me a good Mom. It’s never enough because I want to be the absolute best for my son and that’s how much I love him.

I’ve learned that the guilt I feel is no different than any other Mom’s guilt- we all feel it. There’s times that I felt guilty because I do not do “enough” as a Mom but we all feel this way. I have Mom friends in a variety of scenarios and pretty much that only thing that we all have in common is that we all have guilt to some extent that we could be doing things better. It’s called love.

Over the past year I’ve learned that preparation and flexibility are the keys to survival. I spent a lot of time over the past year focused on our routines and figuring out the best ways to manage our time. Every evening I pack our bags like we’re going on vacation, lay out our clothes and make sure meals are planned and ready to go. I constantly check our family calendar and my personal to-do list to keep our household running smoothly. I plan out my time meticulous and it allows me to fit in every priority in my week. It’s a lot of work but keeping us organized keeps us prepared for the daily challenges that will inevitably come our way.

As a Mom I’ve learned that it’s absolutely vital to make time for myself. No matter the situation, in order to be a good Mom you must have a full tank. It’s like the say, you must put on your own oxygen mask before tending to others. So I make time for myself every week. I get my errands done during my work from home day on Friday so that weekend nap times are my time to myself. I get manicures every two weeks on lunch. I work out in the mornings so I can get ready in peace. And when I need a break I have no qualms about asking for help.

One year later I wouldn’t consider myself a working Mom. I’m just myself. I’ve adapted and grown and now have a new role.  And even though I felt completely different when I returned to work a year ago now the many aspects of my day are just who I am.

 

Day in the Life: December 2016

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Good Morning! It’s been a few months since I did my last day-in-the-life post. Since then not much has changed besides Buel dropping bottles and moving onto milk which has made our days slightly easier. Besides that, it feels like things are winding down overall- our remodel is just days from being finished (fingers crossed!), my work busy season is winding down, I’m finishing up the last pieces of paperwork for my Dad’s Estate and 2016 is coming to a close. Monday I documented my day to share one last daily recap for the year, it was a pretty typical day!

6:15 my “alarm” goes off, but I’ve been somewhat awake since 5:30 when Rich got up for crossfit, but then he text me from downstairs he forgot he’s working the late shift so he can go to a later class and help with the morning routine.

6:30 I get out of bed and take care of the fur child. I let Penny out, which requires me telling her to go “all the way” in the snow several times. She’s a diva and hates getting her paws wet.

Meanwhile I pour myself a glass of water, chug it and then pour myself one coffee for now and one to go. Then Penny comes in and I feed her.

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6:45 I go upstairs and give Rich his last 12 Days of Christmas present. It’s an album of one of our favorite bluegrass bands and he’s excited. I’m happy that Buel is already dressed- it means we will be on time!

6:50 Luckily I prep everything I can the night before so I’m able to get myself ready quickly since we are running short on time, our contractor has our shower door install scheduled for this morning so we need to get going.

7:10 And we are off! I put on some
Christmas music and thankfully the roads aren’t terrible after the snow the night before.

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7:30 Drop off #1 at doggy daycare

7:35 Drop off Buel at his daycare, the one takes a little longer due to winter gear and the fact that he has been running to grab my legs when I leave, poor guy! His teacher distracts him with breakfast and I’m out.

7:45 Walk outside, grab my stuff and then go back inside to the gym. I’m extremely lucky that my work has a daycare center and gym, and even more lucky they are in the same building.

7:50 Hop on the bike from some cardio. I’m still getting over a cold so I take it easy but I’m still sweating after 20 minutes and I call it a decent start to the week.

8:10 Time for a shower and getting ready in the quiet locker room- this is my main motivation for getting to the gym in the morning and it never gets old. [Read more…]

Day in the Life: October 2016

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I can’t believe I’m saying this, but Buel will be one next week. I’m in disbelief and wish I could freeze time to enjoy my infant a bit longer. Instead I thought I would do a day-in-the-life post to capture our current crazy stage of life.

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