Let’s face it, life is messy.
As much as we try to filter it and share only our highlight reel, life is messy and we may as well embrace it. I’m here to tell you this morning that you’re not alone and I’m currently going through a messy phase….
Just when I thought I had a handle on parenting, a new phase has started and I’m re-learning everything I thought I knew. Every phase so far has had it’s joys and challenges. But handling toddler tantrums has brought things to an entirely new level. When things are good, they are really good. And when things are bad, I understand why wine was created.
The thing I realized early on in parenthood is that there is no right or wrong approach to anything, so instead of worrying about what I “should” be doing, I try to do what feels right for me and B. As we get closer to two, here are the things I’m trying to keep in the back of my mind so that I stay confident- and sane- in my parenting choices….
Parenthood these days is where I find my perspective. It’s been a very full last few months and despite wanting to slow down, life has been coming at us full steam ahead with not a lot of reprieve in sight. Thankfully I am able to slow down when it counts, because these months are flying by and I know it’s important to savor every phase….
I’ve struggled with my inter critic my entire life. The little voice in my head that tells me I’m not good enough as a wife, a mom, an employee and friend. However, within the last few years I’ve made great strides towards overcoming perfectionism and am able to find peace in the moment. I’ve had so many compliments on my confidence lately that I had to take notice and what I’ve realized is that I’m confident because I’ve stopped trying to be perfect.
Last week, we had some major flooding in our town and our perfect play room was filled with water. Within just a few hours our “perfect” house became a construction zone again. Now that we’re working through it, I can say with confidence that this was the universe’s not-so-gentle way of reminding me that perfection is unattainable and life is a work in progress.
If this were to have happened a few years ago, I probably would have reacted a lot differently. Instead I had the confidence to know that we would get through it and it gave me peace of mind. These type of situations are temporary and having my priorities in check helped me to remember what is important….
I’m heading home today from a work conference in DC and I cannot wait to be home to my boys! This post is one that’s been in my head for awhile that came together in a cab ride to the airport. As Buel said “uh oh” as the door shut, it reminded me how hard things can be. As always, these are my feelings and I would love to hear how you relate so that we can learn from each other!…
We’re back to the swing of things after visiting family in Louisville over the weekend. We had a lot of fun exploring the city, eating some new foods and even got out on a date night! The best part of the trip though? Seeing my little man playing with his great Aunts and Uncle….
The fact that I’m writing this update almost a month late pretty much sums up this phase of parenthood. The weeks fly by and some days it feels like we’re just hanging on, but overall it’s an enjoyable ride. It’s been three months since our last update and it seems like these days we are going through a milestone a day!…
Our weekend was an accurate depiction of motherhood and filled with highs and lows. It would be easy to share an edited, pretty recap, but you know that’s not how I roll….
To some extent, I think it’s inevitable that we all turn into our parents. Some people dread it, but for someone who’s lost both of her parents this is something I’ve come to cherish….