Over the weekend, we celebrated five years of marriage. We both agreed that it does not seem like we’ve been married for that long. But at the same time, it feels like we’re definitely not newly married.
For me, this year was the year that I learned a lot of lessons when it comes to marriage.
Marriage is hard because life is hard.
Just like life, marriages go through seasons. For us, working through life’s challenges has never been optional but that doesn’t mean things haven’t been hard.
This year one thing that clicked for me is that sometimes life is just hard. And it really has nothing to do with your marriage. In the past I think I’ve blamed our marriage during hard seasons. Learning this lesson was key and I think it will help us weather the storms for many years to come.
Marriage isn’t always give and take.
This year was a huge year of personal growth for both of us. We’ve both worked hard to meet professional and personal goals, which meant we weren’t always able to give each other 100%.
What I realized this year was that eventually things even out, but it’s best not to thing of things that way. We’ve let score keeping go for the most part and when things feel uneven we’re learned to talk it out. Learning to truly support each other this year without expecting anything back has made us a lot stronger both individually and as a couple.
Marriage is finding beauty in the day to day.
When I look back on this past year, the simple moments are the ones I’m most fond of. The easy Sunday mornings as a family, the time spent just being together and living life together. That’s what life is all about and I’m grateful for our family and our marriage.