I’m heading home today from a work conference in DC and I cannot wait to be home to my boys! This post is one that’s been in my head for awhile that came together in a cab ride to the airport. As Buel said “uh oh” as the door shut, it reminded me how hard things can be. As always, these are my feelings and I would love to hear how you relate so that we can learn from each other!
In my opinion, there’s not enough advice for working moms out there. It’s easy to get caught up in what you think you “should” be doing versus following your instincts. I learned early on as a Mom that my instincts were everything and as long as I followed what felt right, things usually worked out.
When it came to returning to work- I went with what felt right and never considered any other path. It’s our path and it works for us.
Never once have I doubted my decision to return to work after becoming a Mom. But it’s hard not to feel judged. I love motherhood, but I also enjoy the part of my days where I’m leading meetings, making connections with my co-workers and learning new things.
I love being a working Mom and it’s hard. I love career and the satisfaction it gives me to set personal goals and achieve professionally. I love setting an example of hard for my son. I know it will pay off one day, however during the day to day it’s hard to see the end game.
I love my career and I love my kid. I love being a wife, a mom, a coworker and a friend. All of my roles help me feel fulfilled and I love having a life that feels full.
We spend a lot of time thinking about childcare and spend as much as a mortgage payment keeping him safe and happy during the day. It’s tough leaving him, but it’s been good for us. He has learned so much, developed so quickly and is a rockstar at routine. And, by the time he gets to Kindergarten he will have a heck of an immune system.
I feel guilty when I have to stay home when my kid is sick and get frustrated that our routines are thrown off. I am grateful that in the modern workplace it’s easier to work from home, but it is so tough doing it all. I worry about getting my work done and I worry about being there for my child. On both ends, you feel like you’re losing.
One of the hardest things as a Mom is guilt, and I feel it in every role in my life- as a Mom, an employee, a wife and a friend.
I know that as he gets older, there will be things I have to miss because of work. But you better believe that the moments I’m there for I’ll be all in. You see, that’s one of the benefits most working moms shy away from talking about. When you’re away from your kids during the day, you value every moment when you can be together.
That’s not to say I don’t need time for myself. The guilt of wanting to take time to work out, see girlfriends or do something for myself is strong. Our time is so valuable, but I’ve learned that taking care of myself makes me better in all areas of life and the time investment is worth it.
Time. It’s one of the most valuable things in life and there’s never enough.
Time is fleeting and every stage passes more quickly than the next. Our day to day runs on a meticulous schedule because we have to and I worry that our routines do not leave enough time for fun.
I love being a working mom, but it’s hard. The days fly by and it seems there is never enough time but it all gets done. I constantly feel judged by my decisions, but I am confident in my choice and own it.
In the end, who I am as a person will be my legacy and I live to lead a good example. I want to be someone who projects confidence, values time and cares about other people. Life’s too short to feel guilty or worry and being a working mom has reinforced the need to appreciate every moment. And I do, every single one of them.