We’re back to the swing of things after visiting family in Louisville over the weekend. We had a lot of fun exploring the city, eating some new foods and even got out on a date night! The best part of the trip though? Seeing my little man playing with his great Aunts and Uncle.
When it comes to parenting, I always try my best to lead by example. There comes a point where you can only control so much and in my opinion the only thing you can control is yourself. I always keep this in the back of my mind and since becoming a Mom I think my actions through a bit more thoroughly.
A Lesson in Letting Go
Traveling with a toddler is an adventure and our trip was a good lesson in letting go. We typically thrive on a schedule, but our routine was totally thrown out the window while on vacation.
Buel refused to nap the entire weekend and went to bed way later than normal. Usually this would stress me out, but it did not bother my family one bit. In fact, they seemed grateful to get to spend more time with him. Their patience was admirable and it inspired me to be a bit more patient in my every day life.
Leading by example is something I think about, but I sometimes fall flat on remembering that in the present moment. I get stressed when I cannot control the moment and I forget to think long term.
Parenting with the end goal in mind
On Sunday, we joined my Aunt Carol at church and it just so happened that the message was focused on parenting. A coincidence? I think not. During the service, the pastor said something that struck a cord with me- parenting with the end goal in mind.
Essentially, parenting with the end goal in mind means parenting with intention. It’s making decisions in the current moment that will pay off in the long run. It’s choosing to focus on building character and creating an environment that will help support the values you would like your children to embody as adults.
At the end of the message, the pastor recommended thinking about picturing your child as an adult and then think about what you can do now to support that person.
So, who do I envision when I see my son at twenty five years old? It’s a hard question to answer but there are a few things I know for sure.
I see someone who prioritizes his family.
He is someone who keeps his promises.
And someone who does the right thing.
I want him to be someone who goes the extra mile and never expects something to be handed to him.
Lastly, I want him to be a good friend and someone who is respectful to those around him.
The rest of that answer I’m still working on, but after these lessons there are a few things I know about who I want to be as a parent. As a parent I want to be patient. I want to be able able to be who he is but also ground him in our family values. I want to lead by example and let go of control with peace of mind that I’m parenting with the end goal in mind.
What’s the biggest lesson you’ve learned lately?
p.s. If you’re interested in seeing some of things we saw (& ate) on our trip- check out my Instagram!