Mom Talk: Accepting My Body After Baby

Even before I became a Mom, I had plans for a comeback for my body. I had big plans for amazing before-and-after photos with a success story to go along with it. But then, somewhere along the way things changed. My mindset shifted and I became much more focused on accepting my body after baby versus trying to get “back” the body I had.

Yes, in the beginning I struggled because I did not feel like “myself,” but somewhere along the way it dawned on me that I may not ever feel the same. So I bought new pants, found some patience and prepared for some hard work.

Shifting My Goal Mindset

Still, in the back of my mind I set “goals” for myself- first I declared that I could give myself “nine months on, nine months off” but when that didn’t happen I said I would give myself a year. When we reached that point the goals had slipped my mind as feeling my best came to the forefront. I was too focused on getting strong, giving my mind a break and giving myself time for me to notice the number on the scale.

Why it took me 30 years and a baby to figure this out I’ll never know, but taking the pressure off of myself has been more motivational than anything I’ve tried before.

Even in the newborn stage, my workouts became “my time” when I felt like myself and when I did something just for me. My work outs became the thing that kept my stress levels down and for the first time ever I looked forward to them rather than dreading them. When I returned to work I figured out a way to fit fitness into my lifestyle and it became the non-negotiable part of my week that finally made working out a lifestyle.

Getting Back Into My Pre-Baby Jeans

It took me a good seven months before I was ready to get back to consistent workouts and healthy eating, before that all the other pieces of working motherhood had to fall into place. I committed to seeing a personal trainer a few times per week and that combined with our house being remodeled got me up and out at 6:45am every weekday morning. And finally after eight months of hard work and fifteen months postpartum my pre-baby jeans fit me again.

In all honestly, I did not even think of trying on my pre-baby jeans until I noticed that I was swimming in all of my pants. So once again I bought new pants and felt good to be back to my old size. But by that point, it was more of a bonus of living a lifestyle that I had always wanted to live.

Somewhere along the way I forgot what my goals were and instead realized that my focus is on feeling my best. Taking care of myself makes me a better person and allows me to be the mom, wife, employee and friend that I want to be. And although I’m not sure I’ll ever get my pre-baby body back, I’m a confident, healthier version of me and someone I feel is a great example for my family.

What is your current motivator? What is the most important part of your daily routine?

 

 

Comments

  1. when i decided to take back my health, i found that changing my perspective from skinny to healthy was what kept me going. i stopped looking at the scale or if i was getting skinny but i focused on how i was feeling …which was amazing!

    you can do this!

  2. lungingthroughlife says:

    I love hearing your goals and how they shifted! Giving yourself grace (and new pants!) is honestly amazing and I’m so glad you did it.

    • Thanks! I was seriously kind of annoyed I had to buy new pants, but now that they are package away to use later I’m ok with it. 🙂

  3. I struggle with this on a daily basis, but I have accepted how my body has changed, and I focus now more on health and feeling strong, and not the number on a scale. And I totally agree with you — my workouts are my me time and I look forward to them now!

  4. I will be the first to admit that I have fallen so far off the workout wagon post-baby… and now that he’s over a year old, I’m really running out of excuses! Gotta get back in the game. That said, though, I have been amazed to find that now, when I’m working out 0x/week, I am more accepting and more comfortable with my body than I ever was when I was working out 5-6x/week. Something about growing and birthing and raising a baby has just shifted my priorities and changed my outlook about myself – it truly took 30 years and a baby for me to be comfortable with myself, too. Yay us. 🙂

    • I think for me, the key was adjusting my expectations when it comes to working out. I’m only at the gym 20-30 minutes max and get ready in peace after that. It’s my motivation. 🙂

  5. I love this post!! I’m so glad you’ve found your happy and healthy place! I think kinda definitely does that to us. Getting to the gym for that long workout just isn’t as important as it was before and now, it’s for other reasons like you said… “me time.” I have good weeks of workouts and bad but I know that I am much happier with myself and less critical now then before having my son.

  6. Thanks for this post– and your attitude is admirable! I’m hoping to get there– I’ve got an 11-month old and I just started working out again about 2 months ago… those first several months were just brutal! Also, I’m pretty sure I haven’t worn “real” pants in almost 2 years. 🙂

    • That’s my dream life! 🙂 It’s amazing how much consistency it took to see results and feel somewhat close to my “old” self. It honestly took eight months of HARD work, consistent workouts 4-6 times per week, being realistic with what I eat and sticking to it.

  7. Congrats on fitting into this pre-baby jeans! I’m sure that felt really good. I’ve never owned a scale because I don’t want to care about the number. For me it’s more important to feel strong and confident in my body and the clothes I wear. I never got back to a place where I was in as good a shape as I was before I got pregnant with R, but I’m hoping that after this next baby I can work on that a bit more. It’s just really tiring to work full time and take care of kids!

    • Totally agreed. For me this is 100% thing that keeps me sane and feel my best so that’s what keeps me going.

  8. Love your thoughts! I still look back and think HOW was I in the shape that I was in. It blows my mind. But as much as I wish I could get back to that, I don’t want to. My priorities have shifted, and my passions have changed, and being healthy in new ways for Adeline is so important. I think taking the pressure off yourself is the best way to set yourself up for success.

  9. I’m 16 weeks postpartum and trying to find that balance to fit workouts back in to my life on a regular basis. Before I got pregnant, and during at least half my pregnancy, I worked out 5 days a week.

    I like what you said about making it more about you time and just being healthy. Maybe I need to readjust my views a little to find the motivation!

    • Be patient with yourself, it takes time! For me re-setting my expectations was key, my workouts are shorter than pre-baby and that’s ok!

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