Even before I became a Mom, I had plans for a comeback for my body. I had big plans for amazing before-and-after photos with a success story to go along with it. But then, somewhere along the way things changed. My mindset shifted and I became much more focused on accepting my body after baby versus trying to get “back” the body I had.
Yes, in the beginning I struggled because I did not feel like “myself,” but somewhere along the way it dawned on me that I may not ever feel the same. So I bought new pants, found some patience and prepared for some hard work.
Shifting My Goal Mindset
Still, in the back of my mind I set “goals” for myself- first I declared that I could give myself “nine months on, nine months off” but when that didn’t happen I said I would give myself a year. When we reached that point the goals had slipped my mind as feeling my best came to the forefront. I was too focused on getting strong, giving my mind a break and giving myself time for me to notice the number on the scale.
Why it took me 30 years and a baby to figure this out I’ll never know, but taking the pressure off of myself has been more motivational than anything I’ve tried before.
Even in the newborn stage, my workouts became “my time” when I felt like myself and when I did something just for me. My work outs became the thing that kept my stress levels down and for the first time ever I looked forward to them rather than dreading them. When I returned to work I figured out a way to fit fitness into my lifestyle and it became the non-negotiable part of my week that finally made working out a lifestyle.
Getting Back Into My Pre-Baby Jeans
It took me a good seven months before I was ready to get back to consistent workouts and healthy eating, before that all the other pieces of working motherhood had to fall into place. I committed to seeing a personal trainer a few times per week and that combined with our house being remodeled got me up and out at 6:45am every weekday morning. And finally after eight months of hard work and fifteen months postpartum my pre-baby jeans fit me again.
In all honestly, I did not even think of trying on my pre-baby jeans until I noticed that I was swimming in all of my pants. So once again I bought new pants and felt good to be back to my old size. But by that point, it was more of a bonus of living a lifestyle that I had always wanted to live.
Somewhere along the way I forgot what my goals were and instead realized that my focus is on feeling my best. Taking care of myself makes me a better person and allows me to be the mom, wife, employee and friend that I want to be. And although I’m not sure I’ll ever get my pre-baby body back, I’m a confident, healthier version of me and someone I feel is a great example for my family.
What is your current motivator? What is the most important part of your daily routine?