Five Good Things #3

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Welcome to the third installment of my new series for 2017, where I share five good things from the week to end it on a good note.

This week was uneventful in a good way. I’m looking forward to working from my couch today and having friends over tonight for a low key night in. It’s been a good week, but I am definitely still ready for the weekend!

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1. My favorite parts of our days lately have been our evening routine. Buel eats dinner while we settle in and then one of us puts him to bed while the other cooks dinner. We inevitably end up having a dance party during dinner or before bed and we crack up. It’s been fun to find new playlists and this one by Emily Ley is a winner. I also love watching her family dance parties on Instagram and everything she posts- it’s inspiring!

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2. We are going strong with Whole 30! Thank goodness I excel at planning and prep because it’s saved us the past two weeks and made it somewhat easy. I’m writing up a post for next week on how we’re feeling, but for now I will say things are going really well and we’re seeing and feeling major changes. Our favorite meal this week was Skinnytaste’s recipe for Crock Pot Picadillo- so good, easy and filling! We served it over cauliflower rice and were huge fans.

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3. Let me introduce you to my obsession of the week- the Making Oprah podcast on WBEZ! I am seriously hooked on it. With my career background in selling television advertising for years and my obsession with personal development I find it so fascinating with how Oprah got her start and what she thinks of her career now looking back.

4. When it comes to personal development, I’ve learned over the past few years that you can never really get rid of your flaws. One of my key flaws is that I run late all the time, particularly in the morning for work. I’m lucky that my office is flexible and I always make up the time, but I have felt serious guilt about it in the past. These days I realize how much I need my morning routine and try not to rush through my time with Buel and my morning workout. However, this week I was early twice (only 15 minutes, let’s not get crazy) and it did make the start to the day even better. I’m not sure if I’ll focus on making this a habit, but it was refreshing.

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5. Last but not least, I stumbled up the “Weeknight Dinners” series by Lois Bielefeld this week and I find it absolutely fascinating. The series is just as it sounds- photographs of families eating dinner. There’s something so compelling about them and I could not stop studying all of the little details, even though it felt somewhat creepy. Maybe that’s the appeal?

What is ONE good thing from your week?

Working Motherhood: One Year Later

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One year ago today, I walked into back into my office to make my return from maternity leave. Thankfully, it was the first day my company moved into their new headquarters so everyone was a bit discombobulated. It made it slightly easier to deal with the awkward, crazy way I was feeling inside. Everything was the same, but I was a different person.

Now that I have a full year of working motherhood under my belt, I can honestly say that it feels like my new normal. So much so that I had to dig deep to remember how I was feeling last year at this time. I’ve realized the past few weeks that despite the fact that I felt like a completely different person when I returned to work, after time I’ve adapted and become an even better version of my previous self.

That’s not to say that in the beginning I did not struggle. It may have been my insecurity, but when I first returned to work it felt like I was not being taken as seriously. I was the new mom and I had to pass the test that I still lived up to my previous expectations before I was taken seriously. For Rich I feel it was the opposite and he was given more respect at work when he became a Dad. It was an interesting effect, but after proving myself both as a Mom and in the workplace I am confident that becoming a Mom has made me a better employee. Yes there are days when my lives bleed together and everyday I may take time from either in order to pull both jobs off, but in the end my job gets done- well.

As a working Mom I’ve found that remembering the example I’m setting for my son is the best motivation to work hard on the job. I was prepared to feel guilty and some days I feel the ping of guilt as I’m going about my day, but in my gut I know that continuing to pursue my career is the best choice for myself and for my family.

But, I do feel guilty. I often feel guilty that I drop Buel off early to daycare so that I can fit in my morning workout. I feel guilty when I forget items or paperwork to turn into his teachers. I feel guilty that I do not make all of his food from scratch and worry that we rush through our routines. I could go on, but I have learned to remind myself that worrying about these things is what makes me a good Mom. It’s never enough because I want to be the absolute best for my son and that’s how much I love him.

I’ve learned that the guilt I feel is no different than any other Mom’s guilt- we all feel it. There’s times that I felt guilty because I do not do “enough” as a Mom but we all feel this way. I have Mom friends in a variety of scenarios and pretty much that only thing that we all have in common is that we all have guilt to some extent that we could be doing things better. It’s called love.

Over the past year I’ve learned that preparation and flexibility are the keys to survival. I spent a lot of time over the past year focused on our routines and figuring out the best ways to manage our time. Every evening I pack our bags like we’re going on vacation, lay out our clothes and make sure meals are planned and ready to go. I constantly check our family calendar and my personal to-do list to keep our household running smoothly. I plan out my time meticulous and it allows me to fit in every priority in my week. It’s a lot of work but keeping us organized keeps us prepared for the daily challenges that will inevitably come our way.

As a Mom I’ve learned that it’s absolutely vital to make time for myself. No matter the situation, in order to be a good Mom you must have a full tank. It’s like the say, you must put on your own oxygen mask before tending to others. So I make time for myself every week. I get my errands done during my work from home day on Friday so that weekend nap times are my time to myself. I get manicures every two weeks on lunch. I work out in the mornings so I can get ready in peace. And when I need a break I have no qualms about asking for help.

One year later I wouldn’t consider myself a working Mom. I’m just myself. I’ve adapted and grown and now have a new role.  And even though I felt completely different when I returned to work a year ago now the many aspects of my day are just who I am.

 

How We Manage Our Shared Calendar & To Do Lists

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Lately I’ve been getting a lot of requests to share how we manage our schedule as two full-time working parents. After over four years of marriage and one year of parenthood, we’ve found a way to manage our family calendar in an easy, collaborative and stress-free way. One day, Rich and I decided we were […]

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Five Good Things #2

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Good Morning! Welcome to my new series for 2017, Five Good Things! This series is a Friday check-in that will combine my recent “Things I’m Enjoying Lately” posts and my old “Take Time Tuesday Posts” plus allow me to check in with a “life” post every week. In short, this post is where I would […]

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How We Transitioned From Bottles & Easy Toddler Food Ideas

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Good Morning! For my first Mom Talk post of the year, I am sharing how we transitioned away from bottles to milk and some of the convenience foods that help us get through busy days. So first things first, let’s talk about moving away from bottles. This was something that intimidated me at first and […]

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Why I Stopped Writing To Do Lists

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Good Morning! I’m excited to continue my Work Life and Mom Life series in 2017 and look forward to continuing to share my story as a working Mom. If there are any topics you’re interested in hearing more about, please send the ideas my way! I spent a lot of time in 2016 building out routines […]

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Five Good Things

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Good Morning! Phew, what a week! My work days were non-stop and we were running on very little sleep due to my teething toddler. Honestly, every day felt hard but I managed to find time for myself and time for Rich so overall the week ended up being a good one. I am starting something new […]

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Finding Contentment in Routine

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Good Morning! First of all, thank you so much for the love and support in the comments on Monday’s post. It was a hard one to write, but once it was out there I felt so much better. It was what I needed to do to move on from 2016 and focus on the year […]

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Letting Go of 2016 and Setting Intentions for 2017

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For the past several years, I’ve started the New Year feeling motivated. I set big, lofty goals and set out to achieve them. I worked my butt off and when I achieved my goal I would set a new one. It lead to a lot of chasing, a lot of pushing and a lot of […]

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2016 in Review

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  Good Morning! When I look back on 2016, I’m positive that I’ll always be in shock with how much happened in twelve short months. 2016 was one of the most exhausting, challenging, overwhelming and heartbreaking years of my life. It was also beautiful, rewarding and brought as much good into my life as bad.  Looking back […]

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